Sunday, May 29, 2011

If I Were A Boy

"If I were a boy
Even just for a day
I’d roll outta bed in the morning
And throw on what I wanted then go
Drink beer with the guys
And chase after girls
I’d kick it with who I wanted
And I’d never get confronted for it.
Cause they’d stick up for me.."
The story is always the same... a sad tale about a boy who doesn't realize what he is about to lose. And a sad girl who doesn't understand why he feels the need to act the way he does.
And the stereotypes for the women are all the same.. they're too clingy, and overemotional. They're overreacting to something that isn't even a big deal.
But lets take a moment and reverse the roles.
"..If I were a boy
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it’s broken
So they’d think that I was sleepin’ alone.."
Lets take them and put them on the other side of the double standard. Lets take the titles we've been placed with like B**** (if we're assertive) and Sl** (if we sleep around) and replace them with the more positive titles they carry: Boss, Player, Pimp. All words describing actions that are acceptable in a mans world. And we'll leave them with ours: words derived from the same behavior but carry a negative connotation.

Lets take them and let them experience what what we've all experienced. Lets let them fell for us the way we do for them. And lets show them exactly what hurts that they couldn't understand.

"..I’d put myself first
And make the rules as I go
Cause I know that she’d be faithful
Waitin’ for me to come home.."
Lets take them and show them what it is to wait. and show them what it is to care for someone who continually only puts themselves first. Lets show them what it is like to be on the other side of a relationship like that.

Lets show them how it feels to be a girl.

But you're just a boy...
                                "..You don’t understand
Yeah you don’t understand
How it feels to love a girl
Someday You'll wish you were a better man
You don’t listen to her
You don’t care how it hurts
Until you lose the one you wanted
Cause you’ve taken her for granted

And everything you have got destroyed.." - Beyonce

She couldn't have been any more correct..


  1. i wish we COULD show them

  2. You are one hunderd percent correct. Men will never understand how much we go through and how much crap they put us through. If they could be us for a day, they would understand why we get upset about the things that we get upset about and why we feel the need to be "clingy". But, whose to say that men could even handle being us for a day.

  3. Lauren, this is wonderful. I was browsing through some of your older posts and I am so glad I found this. Thanks for sharing your thoughts - very inspiring and I agree entirely.

    <3 Callie

  4. Thank you Callie! im flattered that you took the time to read some older stuff. and that you found this inspiring. I think its a problem that too often goes ignored. maybe one day in the future the double standard wont exist. We can only hope, right?